Question: Are Black Women Single Because Their NOT Submissive?

10 thoughts on “Question: Are Black Women Single Because Their NOT Submissive?”

1. D.Shaw I think you are half right economically. One has to be modest to survive. However, you fail to hold the man who likes fancy clothes and jewelry accountable. The creator of the monster never complains! How many NBA stars drive cars worth over $300,000.00. How many rappers have fancy clothes. Champagne taste wasn’t created by black women. Contributors to the down fall are just as responsible.

2. As a beautiful black woman, who is married to a white man..i have to say marrying a white man was the best thing that ever happen to me..I’m so sick of black women not wanting to explore other races..Most black men are worthless, no job, jail, just plain losers..who cares if a black man is with a white woman or whatever, i don’t want to go through what she goes through..I have plenty of white friends married to black men and are treated like dogs by these men..who wants that..I say black women need to start going after white men, trust me sistas it is the best thing for you..I’ve dated white men for years before i got married..I will never go back to a black man..They don’t exist to me really..My point is go outside your race!!!

3. The whole issues to me is about communicating, we never communicate. We holler, yell, and expect someone to listen. Not only do black women have issues so do black men, and how long do we suppose to put up with the cheating, and do not speak on something to rock the boat, in order to save a relationship for another week or two longer, knowing you are miserable as hell. I say no, do not put up with bull….people are using people instead of using things. No I am not bitter, but look at all our mother’s and father’s and our hertiage and how it became this way.
   Black women told not to speak on the fact that daddy has had another outside child…much has not change, momma sleeping with uncle Charlie. Now people are more technico with their cheating and more blantant and blunt, then wants to call it friend’s with benefits, knowing your ass cross the line your going to be in love with the person.then we wonder why we can not figure out relationships and how we have became such the topic even in prime time news. “Why black women are not married” we as a race first need to get our shit together and understand that we can have what we need if we learn to understand each other, get alone, and communicate!

4. Dope topic!!!!! I think some black women just don’t let things go. They are holding onto all kinds of hurt from their childhood. They don’t seem want to let these issues go either like it is their Red Badge of Courage. I think it is what makes good black men attach a stigma to black women and loo elsewhere.

   Life is tough enough but who in the world wants a stubborn and grumpy chick.

5. What I wonder is why are we as original people always being placed under a microscope to be analyzed?

   And then only to realized that the lens that is being used to view the situations is damaged… Such as the guy and host of this particular discussion?

   Because I am courious as to why the idea of dating outside the race is a constant on the table of resolutions… if this option is removed and we are forced to work out our differences, we will find much more success within our community where the issue of relationships is concerned… in addition, I did not appreciate the host example of the woman in the bathroom and her response… IMO what the host and those who agree with her opinion or posistion; dose not realize is that the entire idea of dating outside of ones own community has historical baggage…

6. Forgive my lack of punctuation I was writing really fast and used the term woman when I should have used women, and women when I should have used woman in a few instances I also felt it could have been written and worded better but it was rushed I apologize for that.

7. I feel that many black women buy into that theory of being a strong black women to seriously, from my experience most black woman who subscribe to that way of thinking are really ignorant, they don’t understand the importance of role fulfillment in relationships, a number of these black women want real men but don’t really have a clue as to what that is.

   Their attitudes in fact are repulsive to real men the arrogance, vanity, pride,contention, all produce boundless ignorance, which repel real men.

   No real man is going to be subservient to any woman and this appears to be what a number of them want, that is not apart of what a real man is and if that is what you have in your relationship, a wimpy yes man, then you don’t have a real, man he may be good at paying the bills, and giving you what you want, but being a real man encompasses much more than that.

   Bottom line in my opinion is most of these women will never find a real man because they really don’t know what it is, because most of them don’t know what a real woman is, you really have to be a real woman and know what that entails before you can recognize what a real man is, unfortunately most them don’t have a clue as to what either of those things entail or require, so they will always come up short in terms of finding that real man.

   Unfortunately the same can be said about black men as well, they don’t have a clue as to what a real women is neither do they understand what is required or what defines a real man, therein lies the problem in most of these situations, a continuous cycle of failed marriages, relationships, and lonely nights, because neither can identify with what their role is in the relationship, or who they are so supposed to be as men and women.

   Therefore they can never truly determine what to look for in the opposite sex, and in many cases the attitudes they exhibit, and the way they think, act, and behave, are the complete opposite of what the bible defines as real manhood and womanhood, the way woman an men should truly be defined is viewed as old fashioned in this day and age unfortunately.

   God will tell you what a real man is and what a real woman is but the truth of the matter is most refuse to listen, much less act on it, or they only commit half way, they want the loyal, faithful, wise, passionate, considerate, loving, man or husband but refuse to fulfill there part as loving, caring, submissive,faithful,feminine, understanding, patient, wives or women, both parties have to be fully committed to doing and living in a way that truly defines real men and women.

   They may talk about it but don’t have the spiritual strength, or Godly wisdom, to implement these things, to live lives based on the commandments and the word of God, this is how real men and women are cultivated, produced, created, but many are ignorant as it relates to these things, so therein lies most of the problems.

8. I feel that many black women buy into that theory of being a strong black woman to seriously, from my experience most black woman who seriously subscribe to that way of thinking are really ignorant black women, they don’t understand the importance of role fulfillment in relationships, a number of these black women want real men but don’t really have a clue as to what that is.

   Their attitudes in fact are repulsive to real men the arrogance, vanity, pride,contention, all produce boundless ignorance, which repel real men.

   No real man is going to be subservient to any woman and this appears to be what a number of them want, that is not apart of what a real man is and if that is what you have in your relationship, a wimpy yes man, then you don’t have a real, man he may be good at paying the bills, and giving you what you want, but being a real man encompasses much more than that.

   Bottom line in my opinion is most of these women will never find a real man because they really don’t know what it is, because most of them don’t know what a real woman is, you really have to be a real woman and know what that entails before you can recognize what a real man is, unfortunately most them don’t have a clue as to what either of those things entail or require, so they will always come up short in terms of finding that real man.

   Unfortunately the same can be said about the men as well, they don’t have a clue as to what a real women is neither do they understand what is required or what defines a real man, therein lies the problem in most of these situations, a continuous cycle of failed relationships, and lonely nights, because neither can define what there role is in the relationship, or who they are so supposed to be as men and women.

   Therefore they can never truly determine what to look for in the opposite sex, and in many cases the attitudes they exhibit, and the way they think, act, and behave, are the complete opposite of what the bible defines as real manhood and womanhood, the way woman an men should truly be defined is viewed as old fashioned in this day and age unfortunately.

   God will tell you what a real man is and what a real woman is but the truth of the matter is most refuse to listen, much less act on it, or they only commit half way, they want the loyal, faithful, wise, passionate, considerate, loving, man or husband but refuse to fulfill there part as loving, caring, submissive,faithful,feminine, understanding, patient, wives or women, both parties have to be fully committed to doing and living in a way that truly defines real men and women.

   They may talk about it but don’t have the spiritual strength, or Godly wisdom, to implement these things, to live lives based on the commandments and the word of God, this is how real men and women are cultivated,born, created, but many are ignorant as it relates to these things, so therein lies most of the problems.

9. I personally feel that a lot of black women set thier standards way to high.. I have a friend that spends all his money on clothes and jewelry just so that he can attract women. He doesn’t have a job, or a car,but seldom without a date. But a brother that’s modest with his spending,150.000 plus a year job,respectful,take care of his business,and with great credit get over look every time. I get so tired of hearing about there’s a shortage of black men,when you’re constantly looking for the impossiable, when a good man is there standing next to you.. Just stop being so judgemental and you’ll see him standing there !!!

10. Im not sure why you compared us to a dog that runs from one trash can to another? but i agreed with everything else you said.