Still waiting for you man to pop the big question to you? Wondering why it is taking him so long?
Here’s a list written by Paul Carrick Brunson from Essence.com of ten possible reasons why your significant other hasn’t asked you to marry him yet.
1. You Are Already Playing House;
You live together. You have children. You share bills. You have essentially taken on traditional wife duties without the title. Why should he get married?
2. He’s Already Said No, You’re Just Not Listening
Please keep in mind that no amount of love can make someone do something they don’t want to do.
3. You Are a Liability
Do you have excessive debt, several children (not his) or other responsibilities he doesn’t want? Bottom line, most men “hold on an average hand” and only marry when the perception is we’re gaining an asset.
4. You Are His Vegas Girl or his “good time girl”
If you always get the call to hang out with him and his boys, or to accompany him on the business trip to a fun city but you don’t get the invite to any company events or family gatherings, he’s basically saying, we can have a good time together but it stops there.
5. His Other Woman Doesn’t Like You
If he grew up in a household with mama or grandma (or big sis, auntie, etc.) at the helm, chances are, no matter his age, those “other” women carry heavy influence on his decisions.
6. You Are a Nag or have a bad attitude.
If your words or actions create constant irritation, there is no way he’s going to want to bond with you for life.
7. He Doesn’t Respect Your Boundaries
You came into the relationship saying you have rules and standards. He then broke every rule and you lowered your standards to accommodate being with him.
8. He Is Commitment Phobic
He’s cool with calling you his girl, truly loves you and desires to spend the remainder of his days on this earth with you, however, the discussion of marriage is taking it to a level he is psychologically uncomfortable with.
9. He Doesn’t Feel Like You Need Him
If he doesn’t feel like you need him for anything, why would he marry you?
10. He’s Simply Not Ready
Getting married is serious business. I applaud those who take time to assess not only if their partner is a good fit, but also if they are mature enough for marriage.
Paul Carrick Brunson, aka The Modern Day Matchmaker, has become internationally recognized as one of the most successful matchmakers and relationship coaches. His resume includes: Co-host of #LoveTown on Oprah Winfrey Network, Author of IT’S COMPLICATED via Gotham/Penguin, Blogger for Essence.com.